I find a great need in my life to be prepared for as much as possible. That way I have less reason to FREAK OUT. This has recently manifest itself in reading books on adoption and attachment in adoption. You must realize that there is a fair amount of stress in a young child's life by being adopted. How would you act if you were in their situation. I would throw a fit. Adopted children often do. It is worse if they have experienced some sort of trauma.They need a high structure, high nurture environment.
We have also learned recently of a family who adopted what they thought was a four year old from Ethiopia. She turns out to be a six year old, who has experienced trauma. Generally, the older the child, the more difficult the adjustment period, a two year process. Things are very difficult for this family right now.
Roger and I have come to the conclusion that we can handle one tremendously frightened child but not two at the same time.
We have decided to lower our age limit, and include non-siblings.
And keep trusting God.
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Any good books to recommend on adoption? One of my favorites is "The Connected Child".
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Trusting in god will definatly be a big thing, it still might be eassier if the kid has someone they know and grew up with around, less trauma, no, but someone who's expierencing the same thing always helps. take it from a freak. you should start educating your readers about the cultural differences. when you told me ethiopia i thought bongo drums and cutting (wich i've learned isnt true)
heidi
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