BE MY BABY

I love to go to the library. Roger, in his frugal ways, taught me that you can "rent" movies there for FREE! You can also get books on tape to listen to and books on paper to read. I used to be afraid that the library police would come and get me because I was not good at returning things.

I'm a lot better now

Lately, I have been looking for adoption books. I have read/skimmed a few already, sometimes they talk too much about the yucky stuff that might happen and to tell you the truth, I get a little scared. Or I cry. But the last trip to the library I found a great book called:

BE MY BABY: PARENTS AND CHILDREN TALK ABOUT ADOPTION

This book has interviews of parents, kids and people who were adopted and have grown up. It helps give insight into some insecurities that adopted kids might have. It helped me understand the benefits to an open adoption. Open adoption is when the birth parents have contact with the child as they grow up. We won't be doing one because we are adopting internationally, but I can now see how it can be helpful to the child. It also has lots of pictures, and I love that.

From Sevi in the book, age 11, adopted from Columbia:

"Some of my friends think that being adopted means that your biological parents didn't like you. I don't believe that. You hadn't even said anything yet, maybe you just cried. Why would anybody give you up because of that?"

From his sister Madden, age 9, also adopted from Columbia:

"If we do go to Columbia, we're going to try to see if I can meet my birth mother. My parents explained that she was too young, and I pretty much understood that. If I could, I'd ask her if she had been a little older; would she have kept me."

These kids were adopted at about 3 months old. They have a lot going on.

P.S. --Home study visit delayed because of flooding