Adoption is SCARY!

The more I learn about adoption the more thoughtful I become about this big decision. It is really scary. The children are often traumatised. (Think about what they are going through and how much they cannot understand.) Children adopted internationally and interracialy have more issues to deal with. I am learning more and more about these facts. Adoption is going to change our lives in so many ways, not just the, "now we have kids" ways either.

When we first thought about international adoption I was of the mind frame, "they are my kids and they are going to be American. " I am now learning that that isn't the situation at all. It's kind of like the Ugly Duckling fairy tale. The mom duck could teach the baby swan all about being a bird and a duck, but nothing about being a swan.

Some of you are thinking that I have been brainwashed by some "Liberal" mumbo-jumbo. But, imagine not really fitting in because of who or what you are. Imagine having to choose between your family and your race/culture.

There are things that Roger and I can and will do to help our children. But it is such a big task. Sometimes reading these books makes me think...what hope is there for these children? But if their is a will, there is a way...Right? Well, there is a will.